Seven Castles

Ugly Duckling Syndrome

                                      

July 11, 2008

 

Ugly duckling syndrome (UDS) is simply defined as being blind-sided by appearance, rather than acknowledging abilities, qualities or talents.

 

No matter how many people may argue to the contrary, looks and personality each play an important part in our attraction to others. Ideally, I think we all would like to find someone who has the best of both worlds (good looks and a good personality). Good personality to match good looks would be ideal but quite rare. Most people cannot look beyond one's appearance to see their true personality that is unfortunate but it happens.

 

I definitely think personality should always count more over looks. However, I think if most people were given the choice between two people with the same personality but one is noticeably more attractive than the other, most people probably would go for the more attractive person.

 

Here is some practical advice for those who struggle with the syndrome: stop looking at yourself and what you think your deficiencies are; serve in hidden ways instead of just on the stage and in the spotlight; be open to criticism and correction; be willing to take risks, laugh at your mistakes and stop beating yourself up when they happen.

 

However, I believe that sometimes "ugly ducklings" do act conceited when they turn into a "magnificent swan". When an ugly/unattractive boy/girl suddenly becomes pretty and popular, everyone wants to become friends/date him/her. Of course, they are still human and could get caught up in being popular and completely ignore their old friends.  

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