Seven Castles

Failure

                                      

November 13, 2007

 

You are a high school student, short and fat. That really affects how you feel about yourself, but on top of your physique, sometimes when you are with your friends you feel like a total loner. There are times when you are with your friends that you feel like you are like the luckiest person in the world because you have the best friends, but at other times, it is those exact friends who make you the most inferior person in the world. As your average has dropped dramatically and you are now at the bottom of the academic chain, you have lost motivation for all the things your friends are doing. You do not even try to do homework that you do not understand (you end up copying from friends at school). You do not know what has gotten in to you, but you know that if you know what your problems are you should be able to fix them. You do not know what to do and there does not seem to be anything you want to do! You need more than what you have to get into university, and if you do not get in then you will feel as though you have failed your family. Everyone in your family seems to regard you so highly, your older cousins always compliment you on how hardworking you are, your aunts and uncles think you are a perfect student, and your parents seem to think you are still trying. You do not want to let them down...

 

Let us help you out. First, you should snap out of it. Feeling sorry for yourself accomplishes nothing as your story plays out. If you want to change your work habits, you are going to have to commit yourself in that goal. Since you were able to get good grades until you allowed yourself to fall into this funk, it is still within your reach, but you are going to have to put some effort in it and not wallow in your own pity. Have some faith in yourself. One of the worst things people do is to measure their success by how they compare with others. It is a losing game. You can never be as rich, smart or pretty. Inevitably there will always be someone who is better. Even then, status changes. You should never validate yourself by what others think. If those so-called friends let you hang around them just so they can feel better about themselves, who are the real losers? Not you, but them. There is nothing wrong with being alone. The faster you realize that, the more comfortable you will be in your own company. Strive to be independent and self-assured. Start with tomorrow and make a promise to yourself that you will CARE about what you are doing and you will be active.

 

Even if your peers get good grades, do not get jealous or feel down because that is their thing, not your thing. When you go to school, you are doing it for none but yourself. You go to school and get an education so you can prepare for your future. You are not going to school for your family or just to compete with other friends. You are letting none but yourself down if you are not even trying at all. Though you do not improve real fast, you can see how much work you put in and how you pay attention in class.

 

As for your physique, as long as you are healthy, do not obsess too much about your body image. Do you realize even skinny girls have insecurities about themselves? Not even supermodels think they are perfect. All girls have some features about themselves they do not like. The trick is accepting those flaws as a part of your character. Own them and improve on things that are easier in your grasp, such as your mind. When you want to commit to losing weight, take it slow, modify your diet and increase your exercise.

 

Life is what you make of it. You can choose to be miserable or you can choose to live your life. 

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