Seven Castles

Appearance or Personality

                                      

October 21, 2006

 

When you date a girl, which matters most, appearance or personality? Would you date a girl whose appearance is below average but has a great personality? Or would you rather date a girl who is hot but whose personality sucks? Do insides matter more than the outside? Or is it the other way around?

 

Everybody asks the same tough question again and again. Many people, with high standard, would like to go for both. But if you are asked to choose the only one, what is your choice?

 

You may go for appearance first, since that is what you can only see. Then it is personality once you get to know the person. It is true that appearance is what initiates interest in another person, but personality is what holds that interest indefinite. Most people will be attracted by appearance first (those who tell you otherwise are either lying or they are really virtuous), but it will be personality that determines whether something will last. If you want to play or flirt around, then it is appearance that prevails. But if you are serious and not playing around, then it is personality that counts. So the bait is appearance, and the hook is personality. Looks can always change, but personality cannot. Looks will lose its fancy when the relationship matures but personality will remained forever.

 

In general, mature people would look at personality first and immature people would do looks. More people believe that looks usually get the attention but the personality will be important in long-term relationship. If she has a rotten character, it does not matter if she is the cutest/prettiest looking girl on Earth, you still would not want her. In fact, very few good/hot looking chicks have the brain to match (sorry to have to generalize for this case) and you will probably have to work day and night to make enough not just to cover food and rent, but also on her clothes and tons of makeup she needs every week.

 

The appearance is one's calling card; we pursue to know more about the person and eventually learning about the personality. But then again, each person's definition of looks is different from one another. One likes dimples, other likes freckles; small eyes, big eyes; long hair, short hair; and so on. Beauty with or without a great personality cannot really last long, yet the average looking with great personality last long in any relationship.

 

Sometimes I find we are all shallow to a certain extent. It is human nature. Even someone like me who is not very shallow still has a certain degree of shallowness. If you look at animals in nature, they always seek an attractive mate (e.g. peacocks). We are no exception, although I like to think we have advanced to a point where we also take into account a person's personality. Anyway, quite a lot of men just cannot see themselves with a girl below average looking, that it will hurt their images. However, a person is not defined by just his/her looks and personality. People are multi-faceted and ever changing.

 

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