Seven Castles

Speed Dating

                                      

September 5, 2006

 

Love and marriage have always gone hand in hand. With the efficiency of shotgun weddings and quickie divorces, it would only seem natural for dating to follow suit.

 

Speed dating is a formalized matchmaking process or dating system (a variant of a meeting system) whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. Established by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo in 1999, it is based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles. Originally intended as a way of keeping Jewish singles from marrying outside the faith; the speed-dating movement has flourished in both Jewish and secular communities throughout the world.

 

For many singles too busy to search for love or tired of the bar scene and weary of blind dates, speed dating offers a fun and safe alternative.

 

The rules of speed dating are quite simple. A group of singles gathers at a cafe or similar venue. Armed with a nametag, a scorecard and their sparkling personality, couples are paired up to begin their first date. They are allowed to discuss anything, except their careers, or where the live. Following a certain minutes of conversation, a bell is rung, and the men move on to meet their next date. By the end of the event a participant will have spoken with up to about twenty men or women! Following each date, participants mark on a card whether they would have an interest in meeting their date again. If a mutual interest is noted, speed-dating organizers provide each party with their details.

 

Though people say you cannot hurry love and it is impossible to make a good judgment in such a short time, speed dating has proven to be fairly successful and the popularity of speed dating is growing at a rapid pace. Advocates of speed dating believe that the success of this "unconventional" arrangement lies in "conventional" - simple chemistry. Research suggests that chemistry can be felt within the first thirty seconds of meeting someone, and that is what speed dating is all about, knowing quickly if you are going to like someone.

 

In my opinion, to be involved in a speed-dating event, what you wear is equally important to what you say. Remember everybody is in the same boat, and the speed dating tends to attract the fashionable and well groomed. The key in choosing your outfit is to dress attractively without dressing to attract. Take an outfit that fits you properly and in which you feel comfortable.

 

A certain minutes goes very quickly, if you are not careful you could end up just talking about yourself and not finding anything out about your date! On the other hand be careful not to interrogate someone! You may find out lots about them, but, at worst, you can frighten them to death and, at best, they will not feel comfortable with you! Focus on topics appropriate for a first date. People are beginning to realize that attraction depends on more than just a description or picture of a person, but also through the way two people interact with each other.

 

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